1. Formal Greetings vs. Informal Hellos

  • In France: Greeting is taken seriously. A quick “Bonjour” (or “Bonsoir” in the evening) is essential when entering shops, offices, or restaurants. Among friends, the cheek kiss (la bise) is standard, though the number of kisses varies by region. In southwestern France, two kisses are common, but sometimes it’s three or even four in certain areas.
  • In the U.S.: A simple “Hi” or “Hello” suffices in many situations, and personal space is typically larger. Handshakes are common in more formal or business contexts, but not always expected in casual encounters.

Tip: When in doubt, say “Bonjour” and follow the local lead on greeting customs.


2. Language Directness and Tone

  • In France: Being precise with language matters. French conversations often feature debate or intellectual discussion, and it’s not unusual to be (politely) challenged on your ideas. Written communication tends to be more formal, even in emails, and the correct use of “vous” (formal “you”) versus “tu” (informal “you”) is important.
  • In the U.S.: English used in the States is often direct and straightforward. Americans may simplify language to get to the point quickly. Casual speech is acceptable in most settings, and relationships can shift to first-name basis faster.

Tip: If you’re unsure which form of address to use (vous or tu), start formally with “vous” and wait for an invitation to switch to “tu.”


3. Meal Times and Eating Culture

  • In France: Lunch is a significant meal—often lasting an hour or more, especially in southwestern France, known for its rich gastronomy (e.g., duck confit, cassoulet). Dinner can start later, often around 7:30–9:00 p.m., and mealtime is treated as a relaxed social occasion.
  • In the U.S.: Lunch breaks may be shorter, sometimes just grabbing a quick sandwich at the desk. Dinner typically starts anywhere from 5:30–7:00 p.m., depending on family routines.

Tip: If you’re planning a business meeting or social visit, avoid the lunchtime “sacred hour” (roughly 12:00–2:00 p.m.) unless explicitly invited.


4. Attitude Toward Work-Life Balance

  • In France: Generally, there is a strong value placed on quality of life. Working hours are regulated, and employees often expect generous vacation time (five weeks or more) plus numerous public holidays. Long lunches and a clear boundary between work and personal life are more common.
  • In the U.S.: While this is changing in some industries, the traditional expectation has been longer work hours and fewer vacation days. Many Americans take pride in a strong work ethic, sometimes putting professional obligations ahead of personal time.

Tip: If you’re relocating to southwestern France, prepare to enjoy slower-paced evenings and weekends. Shops may close earlier, and Sundays often have limited store hours.


5. Punctuality and Scheduling

  • In France: Being slightly late (5–10 minutes) for social events is often acceptable. For professional settings, punctuality is valued, although the approach can be a bit more flexible than in some parts of Northern Europe.
  • In the U.S.: Americans tend to be punctual in both professional and social contexts. Turning up exactly on time (or a bit early) is normal for appointments, job interviews, or dinner invitations.

Tip: For a work or formal meeting in France, aim to be right on time or just a couple of minutes early. Social gatherings might start later than stated, especially for dinner parties.


6. Shopping and Business Hours

  • In France: Many shops close for lunch, especially in smaller towns. Sunday closures are common outside of large malls or tourist areas. During the lunch break (12:00–2:00 p.m.), you might find local bakeries, boutiques, and even banks closed—or with very limited hours.
  • In the U.S.: Continuous opening hours are the norm. Large supermarkets, pharmacies, and chain stores often stay open late, with some operating 24/7. Sundays see only minor changes in business hours.

Tip: Plan errands and grocery shopping in advance, especially in smaller southwestern towns, to avoid the midday break or Sunday closures.


7. Tipping Culture

  • In France: Restaurant bills include a service charge by law, so tips are not mandatory. It’s common to round up the bill or leave small change if you’re pleased with the service (e.g., 5–10% max in nicer restaurants).
  • In the U.S.: Tips for table service typically range from 15–20%. In many service industries (hairdressers, taxi drivers), tipping is also customary.

Tip: In France, service is “compris.” If you leave a tip, it’s more a gesture of appreciation than an obligation.


8. Privacy and Personal Space

  • In France: Personal space can be smaller—think greeting with kisses or standing closer in conversation. Private life is cherished, and sharing personal details might be reserved for closer friends. Generally, there’s a strong boundary between public space and private family life.
  • In the U.S.: Americans tend to stand at arm’s length in conversation, with hugging reserved for friends and family. Sharing personal anecdotes or discussing career paths can happen relatively quickly, even with acquaintances.

Tip: Observe how close others stand or how much they share. Follow their lead to avoid coming across as aloof—or too intrusive.


9. Indirect Criticism vs. Blunt Feedback

  • In France: Critiquing a concept, product, or idea can be common and is often framed as intellectual debate. However, there’s nuance in how this is delivered: the French might be direct about flaws but with an analytical tone, expecting you not to take it personally.
  • In the U.S.: Feedback can be more “sandwiched”—managers often provide positive comments first, then give criticism, then end with positivity. While directness is valued, Americans may soften critiques to maintain harmony.

Tip: Don’t be surprised if a French colleague or friend shares their viewpoint candidly. They typically respect a well-reasoned counterargument.


10. Bureaucracy and Paperwork

  • In France: Administrative tasks can be quite involved. Expect multiple documents, stamps, and in-person visits to offices for things like visas, residence permits, and registrations. Patience is a virtue, and politeness helps immensely.
  • In the U.S.: While bureaucracy exists, there’s often a push toward online services and streamlined processes (though this can vary by state). Americans are used to quick turnarounds and digital solutions.

Tip: In France, always have extra photocopies of passports, utility bills, proof of residence, etc. Keep physical, paper versions on hand—many offices still prefer hard copies.


Final Thoughts

Understanding these cultural differences can smooth your transition into French life—particularly in the Sud-Ouest, where traditions like leisurely lunches, Sunday market visits, and vibrant festivals in cities like Bordeaux or Toulouse bring their own additional layers of local charm. While adapting to a new culture requires patience, the rewards include deeper friendships, memorable culinary experiences, and a richer global perspective.

Ready to Embrace French Life?

  • Start with a warm “Bonjour” to everyone you meet.
  • Savor that extended lunch break—practice your French with local colleagues or new friends.
  • Give yourself time to navigate French paperwork, and celebrate each small victory.

Embracing these differences can help you feel at home faster, whether you’re strolling the vineyards near Bordeaux, cheering for Toulouse’s rugby team, enjoying Montpellier’s beachy vibe, or exploring Perpignan’s Catalan culture. Bon courage!

10 Common Cultural Differences Between France and the U.S.